Episode 12: Stop Mom-Shaming Yourself!
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Excerpt: “I think mothers carry this invisible burden of perfectionism. Mom-shaming yourself means judging yourself. It means shaming yourself into thinking, 'I messed up today. I have done something wrong. I'm going to forgive myself, but I've done something wrong.' When you Mom-Shame yourself, you're essentially holding yourself to this absolutely unrealistic expectation of perfection." (More below)
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Overview: Have you ever realized how often mothers gloss over the things they’re good at and focus only on the negatives? Why do you think this is? When we mom-shame other moms, we’re really mom-shaming ourselves. We expect every mother to be perfect in all ways, every day - and that impossibly high-standard starts with us.
Takeaway #1: No one says they enjoy mom-shaming. Everyone hates it and wishes it would stop. However, we all still do it.
Takeaway #2: The phrase “giving yourself grace” isn’t fair - it implies that you’ve made a mistake and now are asking for forgiveness. Some things do require forgiveness, but making peanut butter and jelly instead of organic tofu for lunch does NOT. Let’s remove that phrase from motherhood terminology.
Takeaway #3: In order to end the cycle of mom-shaming, we have to stop mom-shaming ourselves. By removing the burden of perfectionism in our motherhood, we won’t be requiring other moms to reach that same standard, either.
Your turn: What impossible expectations are you holding for yourself? How much better would you feel if you allowed yourself permission to “fail”? DM me on Instagram @on.the.hard.days and share it with me! You are a rockstar, Mama!